#TheSW30 Day 8: Five things that are most important to you in a future mate


Hi! I am on day 8 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Five things that are most important to you in a future mate.

This is a challenging question. I myself is having difficulty in this matter. The five things that are most important to me in a future mate are:

  1. We both should have the same God. I hope that he is a Christian.
  2. Respect and good relationship with his mother. This is vital since I want to be treated with respect. I also hope that he has a good relationship with his mother. It is because, he might treat me just like how he treats his mother in the long run. I do not want to be pushed over. I want to be respected and I will give that to him as well, with all my heart.
  3. Responsible Leader with a stable career. I hope that he will be a provider to our future children.
  4. Loyalty. I know that couples also have bad nights and when that time comes, I hope that he would be loyal to me, whether we face a petty or a big fight. I hope that he knows how to handle situations like this. I hope that he knows how to handle conflict.
  5. He will support me in my pursuits or goals in life. I hope that my future mate will support me in the things that interests me and I hope that he would accept me. I hope that he knows how to take care of his mental health.

Additional plus points if he is fun to be with or if he has a good sense of humor. Also, it would be an edge if he is musically inclined, because I am a music lover. I sing whenever I am stressed, it helps me to be relieved. Another thing is, I hope he knows how to swim, because I am a swimmer, I love to swim. Most importantly, I hope that he will make time for me despite his busy schedule and I hope that he knows how to communicate with my love language.

#TheSW30 Day 7: Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

Day-7Hi! I am on day 7 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point.

Right now, I currently live in a small apartment, just a few walking distance from the University of Santo Tomas, Manila. I am a registered nurse and recently have no work. I was a part of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit of the Philippine General Hospital last January 2018, but since I had my sick leave last March 2018.. I am not sure whether I shall go back to the NICU -PGH anymore. Something happened during that phase when I was working in the area. I hope that I could have defended myself back then, because I had an argument with a medical doctor who did not have a trodat during her rounds and was not able to place her license number in the chart. I am typing in front of my laptop now and recalling some things that happened in the past.

My PGH – NICU experience was a memorable one for me. In that short period of time, I was able to learn so many things like OGT insertions, how to tidy a newborn, how to feed a newborn via OGT from a syringe pump and via cupfeeding. I also learned how to regulate IV fluids and concoctions. I learned the interventions to be done when infiltration happens, I have thermoregulated the warmers and the isolettes. I have also done tracheostomy care and I have done a blood transfusion. I learned a lot from my training coordinator Maam Maggie and my senior nurses: Maam Riza, Maam Genar, Maam Kat, Maam Elaine, Maam Japeth, Maam Bing, Maam Aiza, who taught me to do the things that I must do immediately so that I won’t forget. Maam Gwendolyn saved me during the time that I had to suction my patient and my machine was not properly prepared yet. Gwen was a life saver. Most of my other co worker’s name I have not placed here because I cannot fully remember. But I had a good time with my co-job order nurses: Louriane and Janelle, who had been a great help to me, when I was struggling emotionally and I had to let out my feelings. I miss them so much, but I guess staying won’t be healthy for me anymore. I need to go. My headnurse by that time was Maam Daisy and my Chief Nurse was Maam Fe. The clerk assigned to the unit was Deborah, as far as I can remember. Although, Deborah and I had a misunderstanding during the last days of my shift.. I was glad that we worked professionally, even though I had been annoyed one time when she wrote my name without placing Maria or Ma. beside my name.. But it’s just a petty thing.

If I had not failed my epidemiology subject with my Master’s degree, I would have already finished my comprehensive exam right now and I have already defended my management study and would have by now graduated with the MHA degree from the UP Manila College of Public Health. Also, if I continued my med school, I would have been a graduating 4th year medical student this year 2018. I would have been a Bedan doctor of San Beda College of Medicine. If I had already worked after graduation last 2011 at Makati Medical Center as nurse, I would have probably passed already my IELTS exam and have been already working abroad, probably in Ireland or London. I would have had already my own condominium unit, my own car by now.. and I would have been helping my father in Bicol and my my mother in the educational fees of my siblings.

However, there were bumps along the way. It was not a perfect ride for me. I had struggles with my heart problems and heartaches, but I believe I am more strong now compared to who I was back then. I pray that God will open the right doors for me one at a time as I pursue life in the coming years.




#TheSW30 Day 6: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”


I am on day 6 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

Love life as defined by Merriam Webster is about a person’s romantic and sexual activities and relationships. While life is defined as the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death; love is more complex.

I remembered a person whom I have met in the year 2014; I will hide him by the name San Pedro. He once answered a question about “What is love?” His answer was, “Salamat sa mga comments. I will do consider doing some of it. I received one question though (and as promised, his identity will not be revealed):

Question: “What is love?”

San Pedro: Love does not exist in Mathematics. In Physiology, love is an abstract concept with contradicting findings in scientific literature. As I have told you, concepts with mathematical proof is a step in becoming a scientific truth. So if love exists… You be the judge… Math and Physiology-wise, they don’t… (Though, I’m not an expert in this topic!).

There are many comments that came along after he posted the question.

A. Nora: Hahaha.. natatawa po ako dito.:))

B. Pacifi: Love is the readiness to get hurt! Ha ha ha! #hugotnohugot

C. Nora: Haha..i-CPC na yan doc Coco. #Hugotpamore. Love is food and love is med.:))

D. Renzo: Sino naman nagtanung nun? anyways..wala po talaga love sa math..kaya hirap na hirap po ang students hanapin ang value ng x eh..kasi walang value ang mga x eh..#hugot

E. Andre: This is a major call for a global conference since it’s pandemic.

F. PLM: (Laughing emoji repeated three times)

G. Jaia: Hindi matanggap ni Manci, na walang value ang X. #Akala mo lang wala, pero meron, meron! HAHAHA.- C. Elefante

H. PLM: ^ hahaha

I. Nora: Basta usapang ganito, mabilis magreact ang tao. Hahaha.. Yan tayo eh.:)) #WhoGoatPls

In as much as I was entertained by the answers to the query, it is true enough that love is an abstract thing, can be existing in thought or as an idea but not having a physical or concrete existence; but sex is concrete. They say, abstract love is better than no love at all. It is so complex yet a wonderful intricate in a person’s heart. They say that the ancient Greeks used seven words to define the different states of love. These are the following:

Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family.

Philia: the love that you have for friends.

Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)

Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love

Ludus: this is playful love, like childish love or flirting.

Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.

Philautia: the love of the self (negative or positive)

These are seven different kind of feelings: Storge, Philia, Eros, Agape, Ludus, Pragma and Philautia. In this life, people feel different emotions for different situations and individuals, as depicted from Hufftington post by Adrian Catron’s What is love? A Philosophy of life.

Well, to mark it off.. I believe that love exists. In tennis as a sport, love exists even if it is zero. Though one theory claims the term is a corruption of the French l’oeuf (“the egg”) to describe the shape of the number zero, the Oxford English Dictionary suggests that love really does mean “love.” The only thing keeping a scoreless player on the court is the love of the game.
To answer the question that every woman has the exact love life she wants, I disagree with the given statement. Love is an involvement of more than one person. If mathematically calculated, it is equivalent to one plus one plus plus one equals three (1+1+1=3), which is really equivalent to one (1, if God is added, as what I’ve learned from Janetteikz, a poet who wrote the P4CM’s I will wait for you. If romantically speaking, love I believe is a synergy of two beings. One male and one female plus God. I believe in heterosexuality, that a man is born for a woman under God’s covering.

It is not just for a woman to decide alone in a relationship, because the male or the man should be the leader. No woman wants to be in a relationship with a man whom she can push over all around or a man she does not respect. She wants to be led. It is because leadership in love is a necessity. Love is pivotal in a family, which they will both build in the future, which is portrayed like an umbrella covering a smaller umbrella and another smaller umbrella. It is to be decided that the male should be the leader covering his wife, not the other way around. That is why, males should be covered by God’s grace in order for him to do this. It entails a supernatural power to be able to give love with no fear and no pretensions and no selfish reasons.

God, I believe is not killjoy when it comes to relationships. He knows what each of us wants and He knows what each of us needs. But then, I admire men who can lead their wives despite them facing the art of war in love, even though God gave us the freewill to decide whom to have a relationship with and whom to marry. God gave us the gift of freewill, the freedom to choose between good or evil. Now, to which side do you belong?