#TheSW30 Day 28: Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc.

I’m on day 28 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc.

When we talk about bold, it means courageous, confident, and fearless; ready to take risks.

At present, a big, bold move that I have done in my career is when I have worked at the same time started studying for my Masters of Science in Nursing using my own earned money, without asking for my tuition from my parents. For me, it is already a sign that I am becoming independent as a young adult professional. Since I am so dependent with my parents especially my mom, with that action, I am taking few small steps of independence. Thus, I am proud of myself by being able to pay my bills and by even living on my own too without any house helper.

As an introvert, a bold move that I have done in regards to love is when I’ve confessed my feelings or love to someone. I think that is one courageous move. Although, you have to face the consequences of the action, because what happened to me might happen to you as well. First, he may get shocked and totally cut off ties with you or even block you in social media. Second, he may tell you that he treats you like his sister. Third, he may ignore you because he’s scared to reject your feelings.

In the end, I’m just thankful that I did it courageously even if it is just online. Hehe.

Don’t worry. At least you have shared what you feel. Did you know? I’ve heard from someone that girls who don’t get to confess have a harder time moving on than those who did? Pero depende pa rin siguro sa personality.. Kasi there are those people like me, who have a hard time forgetting my mistakes done. That is why thankfulness and being grateful regardless of the circumstances around is a must. Worshipping God also helps. It turns my mind to focus on the goodness of God despite of and in spite of such things and not to my own self.

Although, I know it’s still painful because you did not get what you wanted. But, trust in the Lord that He always has His best interest for you. We don’t really know what the future holds, but we can rest reassuringly that God loves us as His beloved. You are loved more than you know. You are worthy and fearfully and wonderfully made.

Anyway, I feel like I am capable of making more fearless moves. One at a time, I am facing my fears. I’m grateful to God for making me feel the fears and even overcoming them at the same time. (*kaba is real. Haha!) Actually the mere fact that I am sharing my feelings to you here, while writing down my thoughts is already a bold move for me. So kudos self. 😉 You are getting better and better everyday.

Shalom.

Lord, thank you that you promise to deliver me from all my fears. Thank you that your angel sets up a circle of protection around me as I pray. Lord, I thank, praise and worship you today.

How are you sure that it is love?

I remembered someone asked me many many years ago,

How are you sure if what you really feel is love?

I told the person,

Love is a choice. Do you agree?

However…

We can love so many people, and things.

But the problem is,

Are they ready to give in return what you have given them?

Unselfish love, is not asking for anything in return.

Maybe that’s the reason why we feel hurt.

It’s because we expect too much.

We love selfishly.

But, I still believe in love.

God is love.

It’s amazing how God can redeem people out of pits.

I still believe in love.

I still believe.

#TheSW30 Day 8: Five things that are most important to you in a future mate

Day-8

Hi! I am on day 8 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Five things that are most important to you in a future mate.

This is a challenging question. I myself is having difficulty in this matter. The five things that are most important to me in a future mate are:

  1. We both should have the same God. I hope that he is a Christian.
  2. Respect and good relationship with his mother. This is vital since I want to be treated with respect. I also hope that he has a good relationship with his mother. It is because, he might treat me just like how he treats his mother in the long run. I do not want to be pushed over. I want to be respected and I will give that to him as well, with all my heart.
  3. Responsible Leader with a stable career. I hope that he will be a provider to our future children.
  4. Loyalty. I know that couples also have bad nights and when that time comes, I hope that he would be loyal to me, whether we face a petty or a big fight. I hope that he knows how to handle situations like this. I hope that he knows how to handle conflict.
  5. He will support me in my pursuits or goals in life. I hope that my future mate will support me in the things that interests me and I hope that he would accept me. I hope that he knows how to take care of his mental health.

Additional plus points if he is fun to be with or if he has a good sense of humor. Also, it would be an edge if he is musically inclined, because I am a music lover. I sing whenever I am stressed, it helps me to be relieved. Another thing is, I hope he knows how to swim, because I am a swimmer, I love to swim. Most importantly, I hope that he will make time for me despite his busy schedule and I hope that he knows how to communicate with my love language.

#TheSW30 Day 6: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

Day-6

I am on day 6 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

Love life as defined by Merriam Webster is about a person’s romantic and sexual activities and relationships. While life is defined as the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death; love is more complex.

I remembered a person whom I have met in the year 2014; I will hide him by the name San Pedro. He once answered a question about “What is love?” His answer was, “Salamat sa mga comments. I will do consider doing some of it. I received one question though (and as promised, his identity will not be revealed):

Question: “What is love?”

San Pedro: Love does not exist in Mathematics. In Physiology, love is an abstract concept with contradicting findings in scientific literature. As I have told you, concepts with mathematical proof is a step in becoming a scientific truth. So if love exists… You be the judge… Math and Physiology-wise, they don’t… (Though, I’m not an expert in this topic!).

There are many comments that came along after he posted the question.

A. Nora: Hahaha.. natatawa po ako dito.:))

B. Pacifi: Love is the readiness to get hurt! Ha ha ha! #hugotnohugot

C. Nora: Haha..i-CPC na yan doc Coco. #Hugotpamore. Love is food and love is med.:))

D. Renzo: Sino naman nagtanung nun? anyways..wala po talaga love sa math..kaya hirap na hirap po ang students hanapin ang value ng x eh..kasi walang value ang mga x eh..#hugot

E. Andre: This is a major call for a global conference since it’s pandemic.

F. PLM: (Laughing emoji repeated three times)

G. Jaia: Hindi matanggap ni Manci, na walang value ang X. #Akala mo lang wala, pero meron, meron! HAHAHA.- C. Elefante

H. PLM: ^ hahaha

I. Nora: Basta usapang ganito, mabilis magreact ang tao. Hahaha.. Yan tayo eh.:)) #WhoGoatPls

In as much as I was entertained by the answers to the query, it is true enough that love is an abstract thing, can be existing in thought or as an idea but not having a physical or concrete existence; but sex is concrete. They say, abstract love is better than no love at all. It is so complex yet a wonderful intricate in a person’s heart. They say that the ancient Greeks used seven words to define the different states of love. These are the following:

Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family.

Philia: the love that you have for friends.

Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)

Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love

Ludus: this is playful love, like childish love or flirting.

Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.

Philautia: the love of the self (negative or positive)

These are seven different kind of feelings: Storge, Philia, Eros, Agape, Ludus, Pragma and Philautia. In this life, people feel different emotions for different situations and individuals, as depicted from Hufftington post by Adrian Catron’s What is love? A Philosophy of life.

Well, to mark it off.. I believe that love exists. In tennis as a sport, love exists even if it is zero. Though one theory claims the term is a corruption of the French l’oeuf (“the egg”) to describe the shape of the number zero, the Oxford English Dictionary suggests that love really does mean “love.” The only thing keeping a scoreless player on the court is the love of the game.
To answer the question that every woman has the exact love life she wants, I disagree with the given statement. Love is an involvement of more than one person. If mathematically calculated, it is equivalent to one plus one plus plus one equals three (1+1+1=3), which is really equivalent to one (1, if God is added, as what I’ve learned from Janetteikz, a poet who wrote the P4CM’s I will wait for you. If romantically speaking, love I believe is a synergy of two beings. One male and one female plus God. I believe in heterosexuality, that a man is born for a woman under God’s covering.

It is not just for a woman to decide alone in a relationship, because the male or the man should be the leader. No woman wants to be in a relationship with a man whom she can push over all around or a man she does not respect. She wants to be led. It is because leadership in love is a necessity. Love is pivotal in a family, which they will both build in the future, which is portrayed like an umbrella covering a smaller umbrella and another smaller umbrella. It is to be decided that the male should be the leader covering his wife, not the other way around. That is why, males should be covered by God’s grace in order for him to do this. It entails a supernatural power to be able to give love with no fear and no pretensions and no selfish reasons.

God, I believe is not killjoy when it comes to relationships. He knows what each of us wants and He knows what each of us needs. But then, I admire men who can lead their wives despite them facing the art of war in love, even though God gave us the freewill to decide whom to have a relationship with and whom to marry. God gave us the gift of freewill, the freedom to choose between good or evil. Now, to which side do you belong?

I don’t wanna wait

Aicelle Santos – I Don’t Wanna Wait

Lyrics:
So open up your morning light,
And say a little prayer for right
You know that if we are to stay alive
Then see the peace in every eye…
doo doo doo doo do doo do do
do doo doo doo doo dooo doo ooh
She had two babies, one was six months,
one was three In the war of ’44…
Every telephone ring, every heartbeat stinging
When she thought it was God calling her
Oh, would her son grow to know his father?
[CHORUS:]
I don’t want to wait for our lives to be over,
I want to know right now, what will it be?
I don’t want to wait for our lives to be over,
Will it be yes or will it be…sorry?
doo doo oooh doo ooh do do ooh
He showed up all wet on the rainy front step
Wearing shrapnel in his skin
And the war he saw lives inside him still,
It’s so hard to be gentle and warm
The years pass by and now he has granddaughters
[CHORUS]
You look at me from across the room
You’re wearing your anguish again
Believe me I know the feeling
It sucks you into the jaws of anger(oooooooh)
So breathe a little more deeply my love
All we have is this very moment
And I don’t want to do what his father,
And his father, and his father did,
I want to be here now
So open up your morning light,
And say a little prayer for right
You know that if we are to stay alive,
And see the peace in every eye…
[CHORUS x2]
doo doo doo dooo oooh
do dooo doo doo doo doo dooo
do doooo oooh doo doo doo do dooo do do
So open up your morning light,
And say a little prayer for right
You know that if we are to stay alive
Then see the love in every eye…
I love how the artist named Aicelle sang this song. Her voice is raspy and very warm to hear. It’s not so diva like voice. I realized that it’s possible to sing a song without shouting or hitting the very high notes to shiver some timbers. Her voice hits the low notes but still hits the other notes correctly. I’m not sure on what key the song was played but I like it. I wanna perform this song someday too. I will study this. 🙂 I want to watch her sing in person someday.. I’m already a fan. This song inspired me this week by the way, despite my struggles.. because adulting is hard. Sooo hard.
Can I just go back to the time where I was just a kid? Where my problems are just to eat on time, do my assignments and sleep early so I can rise up early, and where the things I play are just paper and barbie dolls, pico, chinese garter and luksong baka at tinik and other childish games..

There is, however…

There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love.

It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.

 

Sad sad sad.

But if it’s for the best, Thy will be done.